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CLITERALY IMPORTANT EPISODE: Full Frontal: WHAT"S IN THE BOX?!?! Arya; bringing intimacy and pleasure back into the bedroom

We are re-releasing some super important episodes to make sure you all got an earful the first time around! Be sure to check out our friends at Arya.FYI.com!
 
Is your bedroom getting boring? Need a spice in your sex life? In this Full Frontal we are joined by Arya's own Head of Relationship Research, Nicholas Velotta, to bring attention to this incredible, relationship changing subscription service. Arya is unlike any "date night" box you have ever seen, with constantly changing scenes that are tailor made for you and your partner by your very own "relationship concierge". From tame to tantric, Arya has boxes curated with high-end sex toys, sexy playlists, ideas for getting started, safe words, aftercare and so much more. Nicholas talks to us about how each box is made, how the scenes are created and the statistics they have learned from the couples who have tried and tested Arya from the start. We also discuss Kevin and my first box and take a look at the future of Arya. Wanna try it for yourself? Use code WYP15 for 15% off your first 3 months. This revolutionary relationship rejuvenator has the WYP sexy stamp of approval. Go check out Arya today, and reignite the passion in your romance. 
 
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Afternoon Delight Part 3: Contraception Confessions; Your voices, Your choices

Welcome to part 3 of Afternoon Delight: Birth Control Chronicles! We’ve talked about the facts, we’ve broken down the methods, but now—it’s time to dive deep into REAL stories from YOU, our incredible listeners. 🫶 Over 10 submissions came through when I asked for your stories, and I was overwhelmed with the willingness to share. We got a wild mix of call-ins, write-ins, and unforgettable stories that give us the inside scoop on everything from vasectomies to IUDs, and beyond. Huge thanks to everyone who took the time to share—you’re the real MVPs! 💖
💥 What’s on the table? 💥
🔪 Vasectomy Stories:We’ve got three different vasectomy journeys, each one as unique as the person who shared it. Whether it was a quick decision, a long contemplation, or a "why didn't I do this sooner?" moment, these stories bring all the feels. 😱🔪💥
💊 The Pill Chronicles:A few listeners walk us through decades of being on the pill—from being a teen to now. Spoiler: It’s not always sunshine and rainbows, but the lessons learned are priceless. 🌈💊
💉 The IUD Experience:Painful insertion? A breeze? Multiple listeners spill their IUD stories, each more different than the last. Did they almost pass out from the pain? Did they keep it in? Let’s just say, it’s a wild ride. 🚨😵‍💫
🌟 And let’s not forget... our amazing Erin is BACK to talk about life off the pill—what's it REALLY like, and did the grass turn out greener? 
💡 Did You Know? 💡🔹 IUDs are over 99% effective and last anywhere from 3 to 10 years—pretty solid for low-maintenance.🔹 Vasectomies are 99% effective at preventing pregnancy, but remember—reversal rates can drop over time.🔹 The Pill revolutionized reproductive health in 1960, but it wasn’t until 1972 that all women could legally access it in the U.S. 😳
Thank you a million times to our listeners for sharing these powerful, personal stories. You inspire us and we are SO grateful for you. 💖 This felt like going back to season 1 where the guests were my friends, so thank you for bringing it full circle. 
🎧 Tune in for a raw, real, and hilarious episode full of love, laughs, and life-changing insights. We hope you hear your story, feel validated by similar experiences, or hear something that sparks you to take control over your reproductive health. 
#WhatsYourPosition #BCConfidential #RealTalkReproductiveHealth #ContraceptionChronicles #mybodymychoice #listenerstory 

Afternoon Delight Part 2: Hormonal Birth Control; From IUD's to poppin pills

We’re BACK, baby! 💃 If you thought we covered it all in Afternoon Delight Part 1, think again—because birth control comes in many forms, and we’re breaking them all down. Whether you’re popping a pill, slapping on a patch, or letting the ring do its thing, we’ve got the facts, the history, and the stats you need to make the right choice for YOU. Because when it comes to birth control, one size does NOT fit all!
🔥 What’s on the agenda? 🔥
💊 The Pill:✔️ First hit the market in 1960—and changed everything.✔️ With perfect use, it’s 99% effective, but typical use brings it down to 93%.
👕 The Patch:✔️ Releases steady hormones through the skin—set it and forget it (for a week!).✔️ Can be less effective in people over 198 lbs, so weight may be a factor.
💍 The Ring:✔️ Insert it once a month—hello, low maintenance!✔️ Contains a lower dose of hormones than the pill, but just as effective.
💉 The Shot:✔️ Just 4 shots a year—talk about easy!✔️ Can take 10 months or longer to regain fertility after stopping.
⚠️ REMEMBER: Not all birth control is created equal, and not all bodies react the same way. What’s perfect for your BFF might not vibe with you—and that’s okay! Your body, your rules, your choice.
🎧 Tune in, get the facts, and take control of your reproductive health like the badass you are! And come back for part 3 where we hear listener stories about experience on birth control!
Stay protected. Stay smart. Stay sexy. 😘🔥
#WhatsYourPosition #BirthControlBoss #MyBodyMyChoice #SafeNotSorry #ReproRights #SexEdMatters #ContraceptionConversation

Full Frontal: Backwards Bordello; Kink, Burlesque and Queer Spaces

Hello Fellow Humans!
Get ready to crank up the fun and kink factor at Backwards Bordelo! Join us for a playful romp through LA’s most outrageous queer kink event, hosted by the fabulous Carter—your guide to everything quirky, sexy, and delightfully subversive. 😘✨
In this episode, we celebrate queer spaces as the ultimate playgrounds for self-expression, creativity, and a little mischief. We’re diving deep into the history of these vibrant havens—from the legendary gay and lesbian bars that lit up our nights to the sizzling alternative events that have taken over when COVID-19 forced many beloved spaces to close. Did you know that nearly 30% of LA’s iconic queer establishments shuttered during the pandemic? 📉 Across the nation, a similar 20% decline has left many feeling the loss of these safe spaces where laughter, love, and liberation once thrived.
But hey, out of every challenge comes a fabulous comeback! 💪🏳️‍🌈 Backwards Bordelo is more than just an event—it’s a beacon of creative resistance. Studies have shown that over 70% of queer youth crave safe environments for authentic exploration and self-discovery, and this event is answering that call with a mix of kink, performance art, and unapologetic joy. 🔥💃
Carter brings their signature blend of humor and heart as we explore how celebrating kink in a secure, inclusive setting isn’t just about pushing boundaries—it’s about building community and fostering empowerment. Whether you’re drawn by the jaw-dropping fire dancers, the immersive Shibari, the dancers and knife play, the vibrant stories of resilience, or the need to reclaim spaces that nurture our true selves, this episode promises to be a rollicking good time! 🎭💖
Tune in for a playful yet powerful journey through queer history, sizzling current trends, and a vision of a future where every queer soul has a space to shine. Because when the going gets tough, the tough get kinked—and we’re here to celebrate it all! 🎙️🌈✨
Let's get this party started! 🎉💥

Full Frontal: Do You Do It Yourself? We talk all things Masturbation with Dr Eric Sprankle!

HELLO FELLOW SELF-LOVING HUMANS! Do we have a TREAT for you! After stalking his Instagram for YEARS, pre-ordering a signed copy of his book "DIY: The Wonderfully Weird History and Science of Masturbation" I had the absolute pleasure of sitting down with the incredible Dr. Eric Sprankle—a sex psychologist, author, and Associate Professor at Mankato State University—who just released his groundbreaking new book on masturbation and sexual health. 🌟 Let me tell you, this episode is a mix of jaw-dropping facts, myth-busting, and even a little horror movie lovefest! 😏🎥
👀 An Amazing Fact About Masturbation: Did you know that regular masturbation can reduce stress, improve sleep, and even boost your immune system? 💤💪 And contrary to the "semen retention" movement, there’s no evidence that holding back ejaculation enhances masculinity or health. In fact, frequent ejaculation may lower the risk of prostate cancer! (Yes, science 🧬 said so.)
We also dove deep into:🔥 Dr. Sprankle’s book: From the stigmas around solo sex to why masturbation is often framed negatively in mainstream conversations, this book is a must-read. His sex-positive perspective is all about embracing pleasure and challenging harmful myths.🧠 The debate on "masturbation addiction": Is it a real thing or just another way to shame people for normal sexual behavior? Spoiler alert: there’s more shame than science here.❌ Why semen retention is NOT the move: Dr. Sprankle broke down the pseudoscience behind this trendy myth and reminded us that pleasure doesn’t need to come with guilt or restrictions.💔 Where’s women’s pleasure in these convos?: We discussed the glaring absence of female masturbation from most discussions—why is society still so uncomfortable with women owning their pleasure? 🙄🍿 Horror movie geek-out: Dr. Sprankle is a HUGE horror fan, and we had so much fun talking about our favorite scary movies. From the classics to the slashers, you’ll love this lighthearted side of the convo! (Spoiler: We’re both team Hereditary 👻.)
This episode is a must-listen for anyone looking to challenge sexual shame, learn from one of the best in the field, and maybe add a few horror movies to their watchlist. I was honored to have Dr. Eric Sprankle on the show—his work is game-changing, his energy is contagious, and his humor is unmatched. 😍
🎧 Listen now wherever you get your podcasts! And let us know: what’s your favorite horror movie? 👇🍿
BUY THE BOOK HERE!!! 👇 👇 👇
DIY The Wonderfully Weird History and Science of Masturbation
#SexPositivity #MasturbationMyths #HorrorLovers #SemenRetentionDebunked #WhatsYourPosition

Afternoon Delight Part 1: Non-hormonal Birth Control; Wrap it, snip it, watch it, pull it

🎙️ EPISODE TITLE: "No Hormones? No Problem! 🔥 Non-Hormonal Birth Control 101"
Episode Synopsis:
No hormones? No Problem! In this first part of an all new Afternoon Delight series, w break down all forms of non-hormonal options for making love, without making babies love options. We love options and when it comes to birth control, there’s no one-size-fits-all! While hormonal methods work great for many, they’re not the only way to prevent pregnancy. 
🔥 What’s on the agenda? 🔥✔️ Barrier methods—Condoms, diaphragms, and cervical caps (Do you really know how to use them right? Let’s find out!) 🛑💦✔️ Spermicide & Gels—A little extra protection or a sneaky secret weapon? 🏊‍♂️☠️✔️ The pull-out method—Does it actually work? We’ve got the stats to settle the debate. 😏🔄✔️ Surgical solutions—From vasectomies to tubal ligations, what does permanent birth control really mean? ✂️🚫
No shade to hormones, but if you’re looking for other ways to stay baby-free, we’ve got you covered. We’re busting myths, breaking down effectiveness rates, and giving you the facts—so you can find what works for YOU.
Some fun facts about condoms for your brains: 
1️⃣ Effectiveness: When used perfectly, condoms are 98% effective at preventing pregnancy. But with typical use (because let’s be real, no one is perfect), effectiveness drops to about 87%.
2️⃣ STI Protection: Condoms are the ONLY birth control method that also protects against sexually transmitted infections (STIs), reducing the risk of HIV transmission by about 80% and significantly lowering the risk of other STIs like chlamydia and gonorrhea.
3️⃣ Breakage & Slippage: About 2% of condoms break or slip off during sex. Using the right size, checking expiration dates, and using water- or silicone-based lube (not oil-based!) can help reduce this risk.
Want more condom tips? Tune in to the episode! 🎧🔥 #WrapItBeforeYouTapIt
💋 Smart, sexy, and all about choices—because birth control should fit your life, not the other way around.
🎧 Tune in and let’s talk about keeping it safe, stress-free, and sexy! 😘💖 #WhatsYourPosition #SafeNotSorry #NonHormonalBC #wrapitbeforeyoutapit

Quickie: Oral Extravaganza!

Hello Humans! In this quickie, we discuss all things fellatio and cunnalinugus! We go down on some amazing stats and give you awesome tips for better oral, including positions, topics to discuss with your partners, and ways to ensure everyone feels good! We tell some fun stories about oral sex, play a fun game with oral sex euphemisms, and our stat of the day will blow your mind! We hope you enjoy!

FULL FRONTAL: The Courtship Gap with Dr. Dave Pincus

Ever find yourself wondering why men are still expected to pop the question or why dating apps feel like an endless loop of awkward encounters? Is your dating life one bad date away from becoming a monastic retreat? Trust us, you’re not alone. The dating scene is a bit of a rigged game, and we’re here to unpack why!
Join us as we chat with Dr. Dave Pincus, who’s ready to debunk the so-called "Courtship Gap." We’ll dissect the pressure men face to conform to outdated dating norms and explore how evolutionary standards and tribe mentality can help us reconnect with the real art of finding your soulmate. Spoiler alert: it involves shaking off societal myths and learning to date like a human being!
Did you know that a recent study found that 63% of men feel pressured to act a certain way on dates? And let’s not forget the staggering statistic that only 23% of men feel confident when approaching someone new!
So tune in as we delve into courtship rituals, navigate the digital dating jungle, and give you a sneak peek into Dr. Pincus's hopefully groundbreaking book on the courtship gap. Guys, this one’s tailor-made for you—let’s get ready to break some dating barriers and have some fun!

AFTERNOON DELIGHT PT3: Creating Lasting & Meaningful Change, Gottman Style

AFTERNOON DELIGHT PART 3! How can we build healthier, happier relationships that withstand the test of time? In this episode, we delve into the groundbreaking research of Dr. John Gottman, a pioneer in understanding what makes relationships thrive. We’ll explore the infamous 'Four Horsemen' of relationship doom: Criticism, Contempt, Defensiveness, and Stonewalling. These behaviors can derail even the strongest bonds, and recognizing them is the first step toward fostering a more secure and loving connection.
What sets the Gottman Method apart from traditional couples therapy? Unlike many approaches that focus primarily on past traumas, Gottman's method is rooted in extensive empirical research. He has studied thousands of couples to identify specific, measurable behaviors that predict relationship success. Instead of avoiding conflict, Gottman emphasizes constructive conflict resolution, equipping couples with effective communication skills to navigate disagreements positively.
We’ll introduce the Sound Relationship House Theory, a structured framework that outlines essential levels for strengthening relationships, such as building love maps, nurturing fondness, and creating shared goals. This clear roadmap is unique to the Gottman Method, providing couples with actionable steps toward improvement.
Did you know that according to Gottman’s research, couples who regularly exhibit the Four Horsemen are 80% more likely to break up? However, couples who practice his techniques experience a 94% success rate in improving their relationship satisfaction!
Join us as we share three actionable tips to help you build a stronger foundation:
Practice Appreciation – Make it a habit to express gratitude for your partner.
Learn to Repair – Develop skills to recognize and address conflicts before they escalate.
Foster Emotional Connection – Prioritize meaningful conversations and engage in shared activities.
Tune in to discover how understanding and applying Gottman’s principles can transform your relationship into a thriving partnership!

Christmas Quickie: The Naughty List Edition!

🎄🎙️ Christmas Quickie: The Naughty List Edition! 🎁🔥
Ho, ho, ho, you naughty little elves! In this festive quickie episode of What's Your Position?, we're slipping into something cozy (or maybe barely there) and unwrapping the spiciest holiday facts you didn’t know you needed.
❄️ Winter is Coming... and So Are You 🥵Did you know science says people have way more sex in the winter? Turns out, those shorter days and longer nights aren't just for Netflix. We'll break down the hormone shifts, seasonal moods, and actual research showing why your bed gets more action when it’s cold outside.
💋 Meet Me Under the Mistletoe 🌿This innocent-looking holiday plant has a wild history. We’re talking ancient fertility rituals, forbidden kisses, and some very sexy origins. Spoiler: It’s not just about stealing a smooch at the office party.
🎁 Stuff Their Stocking... Literally 🔥Forget socks and gift cards. We're talking vibrators, lacey little numbers, and gifts that guarantee you'll both be on the nice list this year. We'll give you tips on how to pick the perfect pleasure-packed present for your partner.
📽️ Holiday Rom-Com Smackdown ❤️🎬We’re ranking our Top Holiday Rom-Coms and serving up juicy facts about these festive flicks:
"White Christmas" – Did you know this classic was never intended to become a full-length movie? The iconic Bing Crosby song was actually written for a different film entirely!
"The Holiday" – Fun fact: Kate Winslet’s cottage was so cozy, fans tried to rent it… only to find out it’s fake.
So grab your eggnog, light a fire (in more ways than one), and let’s get holly, jolly, and hella frisky.
🎧 Tune in, turn on, and let’s sleigh this holiday season. 🔔🔥